There are a handful of apps for separated parents. Below are the four mentioned most often in the Netherlands, side by side: Harmoneaz, BeNice, 2Houses and OurFamilyWizard. Feature by feature, with what they cost and where your data is stored.
We make Harmoneaz, so we are not impartial. That is why every claim has its source at the bottom of the page, and why we also say where another app does better.
This page is written for parents living in the Netherlands. Prices are those in the Dutch App Store and Google Play.
The short answer
- Do you live in the Netherlands and want the schedule, agreements, child support and expenses in one place? Harmoneaz. Built for the Dutch situation, with child support and the annual indexation, a packing list for every handover, and the lowest price.
- Is communication difficult? BeNice or Harmoneaz. Both check your message before you send it. BeNice goes further: an AI coach rewrites your message and a filter takes the blame out of what you receive. Harmoneaz gives a tip, on your own device and without AI.
- Do you want one subscription for the whole family and a shared photo album? 2Houses or BeNice. There, one parent pays for the whole family.
- Do you live in the United States, or has a court ordered you to use an app? OurFamilyWizard. Widely used in court cases there, with certified reports.
At a glance
The basics
| Harmoneaz | BeNice | 2Houses | OurFamilyWizard | |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Where the app is from | Netherlands | Netherlands | Belgium | United States |
| App language | Dutch and English | Dutch, English and French | English only in the App Store; website also in Dutch | English, French and Spanish |
| Devices | iPhone, iPad and Android | iPhone, iPad and Android | iPhone, iPad, Android and web | iPhone, iPad, Android and web |
| Price | € 3.99 per month or € 34.99 per year | € 9.99 per month or € 99 per year | € 99 per year on the website; in the App Store € 15.99 per month or € 99.99 per year | From $ 110 per year; in the Dutch App Store from € 129.99 |
| Who pays | Per parent. The other parent can join without a subscription: view everything, check off the packing list and reply in Discussions | One parent, for the whole family | One parent, for the whole family | Each parent has their own subscription |
| Free trial | 14 days | 7 days, plus 7 more when the other parent joins | 14 days (credit card required) | No trial; 30-day money-back guarantee on the website |
| Where the data is stored | In the EU (Ireland) | In the EU | Unknown | In the United States |
| Two-step verification | Yes | Unknown | Unknown | Unknown |
| Ads | No | No, according to their own explanation (the App Store does list “Advertising”) | Unknown | Unknown |
Calendar and custody schedule
| Harmoneaz | BeNice | 2Houses | OurFamilyWizard | |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Fixed custody schedule | Yes | Yes, with standard rotations (week on/week off, 2-2-3, 5-2 …) or your own | Yes, with a setup assistant | Yes, including several schedules side by side |
| Swap or change | Temporary custody schedule of 1 to 90 days; the other parent is notified | Swap request, with a warning for conflicts | Change request; the other parent accepts or suggests something else | Change request (from Essentials) |
| Dutch school holidays | Yes, per child the North, Central or South region | Yes, North, Central and South (also Belgium and France) | Import | Unknown |
| Week numbers | Yes | Unknown | Unknown | Unknown |
| In your own calendar (Apple, Google, Outlook) | Yes, with a subscription link | Yes, with a link (read only) | Yes | The other way round: bring in external calendars |
Messages
| Harmoneaz | BeNice | 2Houses | OurFamilyWizard | |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Sent messages stay | Yes | Yes | Yes, cannot be deleted | Yes |
| A separate conversation per topic | Yes | Unknown | Unknown | Folders and search |
| See whether the other parent has read it | Yes, with the time. Either parent can turn it off; then neither of you sees it, and the other parent sees that it is off | No, by design | Unknown | Yes, with a timestamp |
| Help with tone | Tone tip while typing; for a harsh tone, a confirmation first. On your own device, without AI | AI coach that makes your message calmer, a filter on incoming messages and a cooling-off pause | Unknown | ToneMeter and a writing assistant (from Essentials) |
| Record an agreement from a message | Yes, with one tap as a parent agreement, calendar event, task or day note | Unknown | Unknown | Unknown |
| Take part without the app | No, both parents need an account | Yes, solo mode: the other parent replies by e-mail | Unknown | Unknown |
Expenses
| Harmoneaz | BeNice | 2Houses | OurFamilyWizard | |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Track expenses with a receipt | Yes, photo or PDF | Yes | Yes, with categories | Yes, receipt as attachment |
| Read receipts automatically | Yes, on your own device and without AI (photo or PDF) | Yes, with AI (“Fill with AI”) | Unknown | Unknown |
| Splitting | Split ratio per type of expense, or through the child account | Split ratio | Balance of who owes what | Percentage split per category |
| Settling up | Monthly, with “Mark as settled” | Close a period; the other parent confirms | Payment requests | Pay in the app (OFWpay), US only |
| Child support | Yes, with the annual Dutch indexation | No | Unknown | Scheduled payments, US only |
Agreements, handovers and tasks
| Harmoneaz | BeNice | 2Houses | OurFamilyWizard | |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Record parent agreements | Yes, per topic and per child | Yes; also a draft parenting plan with an AI assistant | Unknown | Unknown |
| Packing list per handover | Yes | Unknown | Unknown | Unknown |
| Notes for a day or handover | Yes, day notes | Reminder the evening before | Unknown | Check-in with location (from Essentials) |
| Tasks | Yes | Unknown | Unknown | Unknown |
| Child details, documents, photos | Documents with the agreements | Medical details, school, sizes, contacts, documents and a photo album | Info bank with medical details, contacts and documents; journal with photos | Info bank with medical details and contacts; journal with photos |
Who can join
| Harmoneaz | BeNice | 2Houses | OurFamilyWizard | |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Children | Yes, free account (schedule, calendar and packing list) | No | Yes | Yes, limited account |
| New partner, grandparents | Yes, with a view or edit role per section | No | Yes | Yes, limited account |
| Mediator or other specialist | Yes, with their own portal; can set up the group together with the parents | Yes, with a portal; the parents decide what they see | Yes, read only | Yes, also lawyers and therapists |
| Export | Export Discussions | Messages, expense book (PDF) and calendar | Expense reports (PDF, CSV) and print messages | Reports of everything as PDF; certified from Premium |
Does it say “Unknown”? Then the app says nothing about it on its website or in the app store. So it may well exist; if in doubt, ask the app. Checked on 19 October 2026.
Per app: who it suits, strengths and weaknesses
Harmoneaz
Who it suits: Parents in the Netherlands who want the practical side well organised: schedule, agreements, child support and expenses.
Strengths
- Built for the Netherlands: school holidays per region, week numbers, child support with the annual indexation.
- Everything is connected: turn an agreement from Discussions into a calendar event, a task or a parent agreement with one tap.
- A packing list and day notes for every handover.
- Start an expense with a photo or PDF of the receipt: the app reads it on your own device, without AI, and fills in the amount, date and shop.
- When the other parent changes something in the calendar, a task or the custody schedule, you get a notification and see it straight away, without refreshing.
- Discussions per topic; messages stay, with a tone tip that works on your own device. You see when the other parent read it, unless one of you turns that off.
- Children, a new partner or grandparents can follow along, with their own rights per section.
- Two-step verification, data in the EU, no ads.
- The lowest price of the four, and the other parent can join without a subscription.
Weaknesses
- Each parent who wants to add things themselves needs their own subscription.
- No AI that rewrites your message.
- No photo album and no medical file per child.
- No web version for parents, and only Dutch and English.
BeNice
Who it suits: Parents for whom communication is difficult and who want help with how they say things.
Strengths
- Strong on communication: an AI coach makes your message calmer, a filter takes the blame out of what you receive, and a cooling-off pause slows down pushing.
- Photograph a receipt and let AI fill it in.
- Dutch school holidays, also for Belgium and France.
- Child details, documents and a shared photo album.
- One subscription for the whole family; the other parent can also take part by e-mail.
- Dutch company, data in the EU.
Weaknesses
- More than twice as expensive as Harmoneaz.
- No child support, no packing list and no tasks.
- Children, a new partner or grandparents cannot join.
- The AI features send text to an AI service (in the EU).
2Houses
Who it suits: Families who want one subscription and mainly need a shared calendar, expenses and a family journal.
Strengths
- One subscription for the whole family, including children, grandparents and a mediator.
- Calendar with change requests and syncing, expense overview with reports.
- Info bank with child details and a journal with photos and videos.
- Around since 2011, and also usable on the web.
Weaknesses
- The Dutch App Store lists the app as English only.
- No child support, no parenting plan, no packing list.
- Unknown where the data is stored, and whether you can add extra security to your account.
- Low rating on Google Play (2.5).
OurFamilyWizard
Who it suits: Parents in the US or the UK, or when a court orders an app.
Strengths
- Well known to judges and lawyers in the US and the UK.
- Message log that cannot be changed, with timestamps, ToneMeter and a writing assistant.
- Extensive reports, certified from Premium.
- Check-in with location at handovers, and calls through the app.
Weaknesses
- Not in Dutch and not set up for the Netherlands: no school holidays, no indexation.
- Each parent pays separately, and it is the most expensive of the four.
- Data is stored in the United States.
- Payments and child support in the app only work in the US.
What to look for when choosing
- Will you both use it? An app only really works when both parents use it. Check what the other parent has to pay and what they can do without a subscription.
- Does it fit the Netherlands? Think of school holidays per region, the parenting plan and the annual indexation of child support.
- What is your biggest concern: the schedule, the expenses, the handovers or the tone of the conversations?
- Who else needs to follow along: the children, a new partner, grandparents, a mediator?
- Where is the data stored, and is text sent to an AI service? Check whether the app keeps your data in the EU and shows no ads.
- Try it first. All apps except OurFamilyWizard have a free trial.
Frequently asked questions
What is the best co-parenting app in the Netherlands?
That depends on what you need. For the schedule, agreements, child support and expenses in the Dutch situation, Harmoneaz fits best. For help with difficult communication, BeNice is strong. 2Houses is handy if one parent wants to pay for the whole family.
Is there a free co-parenting app?
The four apps on this page are paid, but three have a free trial. With Harmoneaz, the other parent can join without a subscription and reply in Discussions. A shared calendar such as Google Calendar is free, but does not handle expenses, agreements or child support.
Do both parents have to pay?
With OurFamilyWizard, yes. With BeNice and 2Houses, one parent pays for the whole family. With Harmoneaz the subscription is per parent, but the other parent can view everything, check off the packing list and reply in Discussions without a subscription.
Which app takes Dutch school holidays into account?
Harmoneaz and BeNice put the Dutch school holidays per region in the calendar. With 2Houses you can import holidays; for OurFamilyWizard this is unknown.
Which app can keep track of child support?
Harmoneaz keeps track of child support and can apply the annual Dutch indexation. BeNice does not; with OurFamilyWizard it is only possible in the United States.
Which app is good for expats in the Netherlands?
Harmoneaz works in English and is built around Dutch rules: school holidays per region, week numbers and the annual indexation of child support. OurFamilyWizard is in English too, but is set up for the US and stores data there.
Sources
- BeNice: frequently asked questions (Dutch)
- BeNice: what is BeNice (Dutch)
- BeNice in the App Store
- BeNice on Google Play
- 2Houses: pricing (Dutch)
- 2Houses: features (Dutch)
- 2Houses: frequently asked questions (Dutch)
- 2Houses: privacy (Dutch)
- 2Houses in the App Store
- 2Houses on Google Play
- OurFamilyWizard: pricing
- OurFamilyWizard: features
- OurFamilyWizard: privacy policy
- OurFamilyWizard in the App Store
- Harmoneaz: frequently asked questions
- Harmoneaz: security
Checked on 19 October 2026. Is something out of date? E-mail us at support@harmoneaz.com and we will correct it.
